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I'm more of a it is where it is and that's fine with the glass question. Yes I agree, a positive mindset is great as is a positive attitude but not the expectation that we need to be positive all the time. xx

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I’m not sure we are wired to be positive all the time, all day, every day. It’s exhausting. Thankful, yes. Grateful, absolutely. But 100% positive every hour of the day? No.

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I absolutely agree. I don't think we're meant to be positive all the time. Thank you.

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Sometimes positivity becomes paradoxically toxic. I've been part of communities where the messaging almost seemed like 'be positive...or else!' Haha - I'll stick to gratitude.

Good stuff Wendy

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Yes, sadly I have also come across that kind of messaging and it's not helpful.

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A great article! I enjoyed every bit of it! 👏👏

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Thank you so much for letting me know Katharina.

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This! 💯%!!! I've come through some pretty rough situations in my life's journey and so many people wanted ne to always be positive and upbeat, or just to give up because "it" didn't work out. Once I started allowing myself 24 hours to feel and process the emotions, it was much easier to pick myself up and begin looking for alternatives. And again with the gratitude...that mindset-shift makes all the difference.

Great post Wendy!🙏🥳🙌

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Thank you so much for sharing this. Yes, allowing yourself that time to process the emotions is wonderful.

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Totally agree. Being someone who is still working on not always having to adapt my own emotional state to the one of the people around me, I still struggle with "not feeling positive" if everyone around me is and "guilty" when I am in a good state but my surroundings vibe on a different frequency. I am trying to work with curiousity and compassion as my "positive mindset" where I validate and acknowledge both emotional states without trying to shift any of it and only then adapting my outwards actions to empathically align with my surroundings while staying true to my own emotional state.

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I have a few tips I'd like to share that I find helpful.

1. This is when low energy is coming from conversations around you. In my mind I say "This is not my truth. And shift your attention to things you like and things you feel grateful for.

2. I can massively take on other people's emotions. So, I like to imagine a protection bubble around me and imaging any low energy bouncing off the bubble so that I am able to focus on my own emotions and energy.

3. During my law of attraction training I learned this - It's not my job to improve other people's emotions. It's my job to protect and improve my own emotions. This often helps me to remove myself from energy and emotions around me.

Thank you so much for commenting and sharing your thoughts.

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Oh wow, thank you so much for your valuable tips! I recently started with 2 myself, I picture myself wearing some kind of bullet proof vest. And I really like number 3 - seeing it first of all as my job to protect and improve my own emotions - and leaving it to my counterpart to take care of doing their job with their own emotions.

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I'm so pleased. Thank you 😊

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I know my note didn't say anything new, but it still feels good to learn that it inspired your thoughts about gratitude. Thanks, Wendy.

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I love it when this kind of thing happens. It's that ripple of genuine and healthy positivity.

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I share your sentiment, Wendy.

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Yes, I agree Wendy. Being positive all the time is a non-starter, but I think you have to have that positive mindset. Are you glass half empty or half full? I

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