Expressing Your Emotions Is NOT Selfish

But as adults I do feel like there is a time and place.

Hi, I’ve struggled with this newsletter. I knew what I wanted to say but I’m still not 100% sure I’ve got it right.

So before we get into things, I want to say - Please, always reach out to someone if you are struggling with your emotions.

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I have 3 things I want to say today about emotions.

1. All emotions are normal - It’s natural to feel a wide range of emotions

2. We all need to be able to release emotions safely and positively without ignoring them - This could be taking yourself to a safe place where you can shout, talk things through with someone, hit your pillows, cry… EFT - Emotional Freedom Techniques is a fantastic way to release emotions. Book Some Talk Time with me or another safe person.

3. As adults, we must understand there is a time and place to express emotions.

You might have some disagreements with number 3. But let me explain where I’m coming from.

A lot of people have a lot going on in their life that others may be totally unaware of.

I’ve had times in my life where I’ve only just been holding myself together and having someone that I’m not particularly close to me unload their emotions and problems on a regular basis was too much.

What I would say is that there is always someone to listen. For example:

• At work - Ask your direct supervisor if there is someone you could talk to

• Let a friend or family member know that you’re struggling with your emotions and ask them if they have time to talk things through

• If you regularly struggle with emotions seek advice from a professional (doctor, nurse, therapist…)

• Stay aware that people you talk with may also have their own emotions/problems and make sure that you repay the listening. Ask them how they are and make sure that they know you are open to supporting them too.

• When sharing emotions (talking about your emotions) try to stick with I feel… rather than you make me feel…

Here’s an example.

I feel annoyed and unsettled when the house is a mess and I have to clean and tidy on my own. Say what you want - I really want some help with this. Then give a couple of specific suggestions.

This is much better than… You make me so mad because you never help around the house.

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My final note is this. Learning how to release emotions in a positive way is one of the best things you can do.

• Talk it through with a safe person

• Use EFT tapping to release emotions

Affirmation: It’s safe for me to express my emotions

Affirmation: I express my emotions in a safe and positive way

EFT to release emotions

Tap the side of the hand and say why you’re tapping (for example - I’m tapping to release this anger!)

Then at each tapping point, you can either say “Release” or “This anger”

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Please ask if you have any questions.

Thanks for joining me today. I appreciate you so much

Wendy xx

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