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Doing Things That Are Important To Other People

There are two ways to look at this. One I'm a fan of the other I want avoid completely.

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Hey, how’s your week been? Celebrate your wins. Go ahead and share with me what’s gone well this week and if there’s anything that’s not gone as we as you wanted.

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Weekly Wins and Thanks

  • I achieved my publishing plan for the week.

  • I’m up to 476 subscribers now - Thank you, everyone.

  • And I created my hero post which is a big thing here on Substack. Here it is » POSITIVE MINDSET: START HERE

I want to give a big shoutout to

Veronica Llorca-Smith
Senetta Diane
Jocelyn Joy Thomas
for recommending my newsletter.

And a special thanks to

Kristina God
for your recommendation and ongoing support. It’s very much appreciated.

And a shoutout to

Samantha M Burns
purely because she showed me pictures of lambs. This makes me very happy.

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Let’s have a conversation about doing things that are important to other people.

I talk a lot about only setting goals that are genuinely important to you. I stick by this but, today I want to talk about when I think you should do things that are important to other people and when you shouldn’t.


Just a little disclaimer. I am not telling you to do anything. It’s your choice. My job as I see it is to give you suggestions, encourage you and empower you.


Let’s look at this in two different ways

  1. Something is important to someone important to you. Therefore even though you don’t want to do it, it could become important to you, so you may be willing to suck it up. Sure, I say go ahead and do it.

  2. Something that is important to someone else that is NOT important to you but you feel like you should. I’m giving this a NO. You’ll resent it and it’s a time and energy drain.

I’ll give you some examples and talk about why one will boost your energy and the other drains your energy - One raises your vibrations and one lowers your vibrations.

People Pleasing

In general, people people-pleasing isn’t great for you and it’s often not that great for other people involved either because when you bring low energy to the party because you don’t want to be there, other people feel that low energy.

80% of the time I’m not a people pleaser. If I don’t want to do something I don’t do it. I’ll hate it and I’ll most probably make the experience miserable for other people if I do it.

I’m the kind of person who finds it very hard to hide my emotions. So, if I’m having a rubbish time, everyone will know about it. My family would 100% agree with this.

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